Only in NY?- 59 and 27!

Question- is it only in NY that a 59 year old divorced man who definitely looks his age thinks he is entitled to have a 27 yr old girl for his girlfriend? Or is it more of a NY or LA thing? Or a big city thing?

All I know is that in most places 59 year old men are becoming grandpas, not dating their granddaughters! What would be wrong with a 59 year old man dating, say a woman who is 35, let alone someone in her 40's????

But 27? Really, 27? Come on...

I personally think that the blame lies with the the 20 something year olds who date and have sex with the 59 year old doped up on Viagra guy. Am I right? If these girls could just said "No" when Grandpa comes a' knockin with promises of jewels and bonbons, then these men would have no choice but to "settle" for dating older, more age appropriate women. And then... perhaps... "the dating ecosystem" would begin to be restored.

Probably wishful thinking, huh, since we do live in the Big Apple and girls here do love their bonbons!!

The married guy or the 22 year old?

Question- Do you think that it would be better for two 30-something single girls, who might be looking for a little action or at least a date, to spend their time chatting with two married guys, or two 22 year olds?

I agree- the 22 year olds sound like they hold more promise. However, if I told you that the 22 year olds wanted to go do some "recreational drugs" in the hotel room that their trust fund parents rented for them for the night so they wouldn't have to venture out into the cold after a charity event taking place in the very same venue;who would you pick for the 30-somethings now?

I agree maybe the married guys. But... if these are the options for these 30-somethings on a cool pre-winter, winter night, then perhaps the recreational drug route might not be such a bad idea to numb the pain of "how did this become my life" existence!

Ughhh! The trials and tribulations of dating in NY!

"Sup"?!

Just a thought... If you had to guess whether or not a 30-something single girl would want a guy who she just started dating and hadn't heard from in several days to text her at 11 o clock at night and just write one word to her, "Sup", what would you guess??

I mean what the hell does"Sup" mean anyway? Does this guy think he is some hip-hop, gangster guy and he is trying to say "What's up" not just as "Whassup?" but now even cooler?

Hello... how about considering your audience- a 30-something single girl, living on the upper east side, who wears Jimmy Choos and DVF-does he really think that this girl would relate to, appreciate or understand the word "Sup"?! Especially at 11pm at night, especially when she was hoping for a litle more encouragement!

What is he stuck in a 50 cent video?

Ever heard of... "Hey, how are you?" Ever heard of plain old "Hi." Girls aren't so picky these days; they just wants words they can find in Websters. Remember Websters?

Hmmm... just a thought.

A thought... The lone guy in the corner

I went to a party last night; it was one of those "fashion" parties at the Brooks Brothers store on 44th St. It was sponsored by Town and Country magazine and was for Ovarian cancer research. Beautiful party, such a pretty store, good food, but somehow they forgot to invite men. In terms of the ratio of women to men, without exaggeration, probably 90 women to every 1 man; typical of these fashion parties.

And the irony of all ironies, I noticed this one guy, very handsome and well dressed, no ring and no apparent affectation, sitting on a chair, in the corner, reading the Town and Country magazine, ALONE, even with his odds stacked SO high for meeting a woman. He literally was just sitting alone. My first thought- he's gay; it would make sense considering that he was so well dressed and at a party with almost all women. My second thought, he's in a relationship/married and his girlfriend is mingling and he is sitting waiting for her, sort of like a man does when he's dragged shoe shopping at Barneys on the weekend. My third thought- maybe he's available and overwhelmed by all the ladies.

So... this made me wonder... do men actually get intimidated when they are surrounded by SO many women??? I always thought that men are like kids in the candy store and they want so many women to choose from- but is there a time or a number when so many is too many? For example, if a man had 5 to choose from, could he handle that, but 97, would that just be too many???

And then, what about the women- if they are at a party of this sort with very few men, do they just write off their chances of meeting a man that night? Or could it be that meeting that one hot guy might even be easier in a circumstance like last night- where he was alone and available for the taking???

Yet given this backdrop, lonely boy (to coin Gossip girl) was still all alone; he didn't approach and no one approached him. It was a crazy notion, especially because he was really handsome. So... I did what any self respecting matchmaker and sociable person could possibly do... I approached him.

Sure enough- fully single, not gay, double Ivy educated, good job, philanthropic, runs the marathon and most importantly, so happy to have been approached.

Moral of the story... just say hi to the lone guy in the corner... you never know!

Dating 101: How to Be a Total Man-Magnet (reprinted from Cosmo magazine)

Dating 101: How to Be a Total Man-Magnet

By Christie Griffin for Cosmopolitan

Do you ever go out sometimes and feel like guys aren't giving you the attention you deserve, and you can't figure out why? That used to happen to me too. Then I became a part-time "wingwoman" -- a girl who helps guys meet chicks by posing as the guys' platonic female friend. (Wingwoman services are available in many cities, including New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Dallas, Miami, and St. Louis.)
While earning my wings, I learned lots of little tricks every single girl can use to improve her dating success with guys. Warning: Once you perfect these moves, you might find that you're such a powerful man-magnet, you attract guys everywhere. I used to date a guy who asked me out at the ATM!
More Dating Articles from Cosmopolitan:
The Trick to Meeting Guys
Decode His Body Language
Dating tip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three. Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.
Dating tip #3: Smile genuinely. So obvious, right? But I can't stress it enough -- and I can't believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem more cool. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when we're nervous, when we're trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don't do it at all, you look unapproachable.
Dating tip #4: Work the eye contact. To reel him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them -- it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won't be able to tell the difference.
Dating tip #5: Don't immediately ask him what he does. Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being asked what their job is. It's that fear-of-being-used thing again.
Dating tip #6: Make positive small talk. Once I started studying other women, I couldn't believe how negative some of us appear. When you're out on the town, you're supposed to be having fun, and any complaint ("It's hot in here!"), pessimism ("There will definitely be another terrorist attack"), or snarky quip ("Look at that chick's belt -- so 2002!") pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.

Do Attractive Men make Bad Husbands?

Interesting article.... What do you think??

Attractive Men = Bad Husbands
By Caroline Howard

Here's why hot women go for less attractive men

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who makes the best husband of them all? New research suggests it may be the toad, not the prince, after all.

Scientists and matchmakers have long known that physical attraction cannot be underestimated in early romance. But now researchers are trying to figure out the role looks play in long-term relationships. A new study, published in the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals that how hot-or-not you are, particularly as compared to your mate, matters well beyond initial attraction into married life, although what that means changes over time.

Research of newly married couples led by James McNulty, PhD, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Tennessee, hypothesizes that couples in which the man is more attractive than the woman are generally less happy than pairs where the wife is better looking -- or the two have matching good looks. "The relative attractiveness in a couple matters more than the absolute attractiveness of each partner," according to one researcher in the study, UCLA's Benjamin Karney, PhD.

Confused? Think Brad and Jennifer. Both knockouts, but he, arguably, more so. Now, look at Brad and Angelina. See?

Attraction is, of course, subjective, but the published study used universal standards such as large eyes, facial symmetry and waist-hip ratios.

Satoshi Kanazawa, PhD, an evolutionary psychologist at the London School of Economics and coauthor of 'Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters', offers his own explanation as to why this may be true: Handsome men make bad husbands.

"Men can maximize their reproductive success by pursuing one of two different strategies: Seek a long-term mate, stay with her, and invest in their joint offspring (the “dad” strategy); or seek a large number of short-term mates without investing in any of the resulting offspring (the “cad” strategy)," writes Kanazawa.

Intelligence, money and power can blind even the most beautiful women to a man's craggy physical attractiveness -- how else to explain the candy on the arms of Salman Rushdie, Howard Stern and Donald Trump? But generally, it's the Jude Laws of the world who have more opportunities to pursue the "cad" strategy. Less attractive guys become, well, the "dads."

And the better husbands. McNulty’s study confirms that men who were less physically attractive than their wives were more "supportive" of their partners than their hotter counterparts. The less good-looking guys also invest more in their exclusive relationships, not to mention less chance of infidelity. "He's getting something better than he's providing on that level," said McNulty in an interview with LiveScience. "So he's going to work hard to maintain that relationship."

Love is in the Moon, TODAY

Sorry for my writing hiatus, but... I'm back.

And I'm back on a very special day. Today, actually tonight... there will be a HARVEST FULL MOON.

And for those of you who don't know what that means or why that is significant....legend has it, actually Chinese legend that today is a very auspicious day for romance!

According to the legend, on this day the Man in the Moon records all the names of happy couples who were fated to live happily ever after. Is it true? I really have no idea, but wouldn't it be nice if it were? Wouldn't it be nice if there was a proverbial Man in the Moon who was watching out for us and helping us meet our mate and live happily ever after? Sounds pretty romantic to me!

So... if you want to believe in the Man on the Moon today or if you are just hoping he might write about you...here is a little advice for when you are out and about today and tonight...

1. Make it a point to smile at a few strangers, opposite sex strangers. This might open up a world of possibilities

2. Reach out to "a crush" today. You don't have to do anything overt or over the top; maybe just send an email and say hello.

3. Ask a friend or colleague if they know anyone for you... anyone single and sexy and fun. Who knows, they might just know your next significant other.

4. If you are in a relationship- married, dating casually one person or trying to make a go of it...do or say one extra sweet thing today- it doesn't cost you anything to put a smile on that other person's face.

5. If you have a friend or colleague who is having a tough time of it right now- they are going through a breakup, a divorce, lost their job, are feeling all alone, reach out to them and say something encouraging. Karma is key and what comes around goes around especially on a day where a Man (or a Woman) in the Moon might just help you find true love!