Friday, February 17, 2006
The mustache question came up because My Name is Earl has become a popular show. Do we think Jason is hot????
DATING GURU DISSES THE MUSTACHE - AM NY, February 17, 2006
BY Lauren Johnston
amNY.COM STAFF WRITER
amNY.com sat down with dating expert Samantha Daniels - founder of the matchmaking service Samantha's Table - for her thoughts on the mustache. Here's what she had to say:
Q: Do you get much feedback on the mustache from female clients now that it's making a comeback?
A: When I talk about facial hair with a woman, nine times out of ten she says she would be open to a beard, a goatee or a scruff, but not a mustache. I hear almost across the board that women don't like it. So I would say, that if it's on its way back, the men have an uphill battle.
Q: What's wrong with them?
A: A lot of women, especially in New York, just don't seem to feel that the mustache is "in."
Q: So are men hurting their dating odds by growing a mustache?
A: I think if you're really serious about dating and getting into a relationship, you want to put your best foot forward. If having a mustache hinders you, then I don't think you should have one. I would never tell someone to get rid of it just because I said so, but I would like men to know that women are not that keen on it right now.
Q: Is there anyone who can pull off a mustache?
A: If he's a really handsome guy and he also has the mustache - then I think women rationalize and think, 'Well, it kind of makes him look cool.' But if it's a guy that's not that attractive and then on top of that he has a mustache -- if the guy is relying on the mustache to give him looks - then I don't think so.
Q: Is there any guy you think looks sexy with a mustache?
A: Tom Selleck. He was a handsome, charming guy. He had that cool way about him. It was like his mustache was there, but you didn't even see it because it was part of the whole package and that's the way it needs to be.
Posted by Missmatchblog at 4:04 PM
Thursday, February 16, 2006
MITZVAH FOR HOLOCAUST SURVIVOR By DEVIN SMITH and RITA DELFINER (NY Post)
February 16, 2006 -- The latest scene in a fairytale love story that began at a Nazi concentration camp when a starving 12-year-old met a brave girl plays out today at a Long Island synagogue.
Herman Rosenblat, now 76, will celebrate his bar mitzvah and Roma Rosenblat, 73, his wife of 48 years, will be at his side.
Roma was only 9 years old when she risked her life for months to smuggle him food at Schlieben munitions factory in Germany — and met him again 14 years later on a blind date in New York.
Their story is set to become a motion picture called "The Fence."
When Rabbi Anchelle Perl of Congregation Beth Sholom Chabad in Mineola saw the Rosenblats interviewed on TV for Valentine's Day, he called to ask Herman to if he had been bar mitzvahed.
"I was so involved in making a living I never thought of it," Herman said.
At Schlieben one night, his late mom "came to me in a dream and said, 'I'm sending you an angel.' "
The next day "I saw a girl through the fence. I whispered, 'Do you have anything to eat?' "
She threw food over the fence for seven months.
Years later in New York, Herman, who had his own television-repair business, said a reluctant "yes" to a friend who asked him to go on a blind date. It was Roma.
HOW ROMANTIC IS THAT????????????????????????
Posted by Missmatchblog at 11:41 AM
Tuesday, February 14, 2006
MINIMIZE YOUR EXPECTATIONS!!!!!!!!!!
If you expect less, you will be pleasantly surprised.
No matter what you get as a gift, be gracious and say thank you. You can evaluate it, pick it apart with your friends or hate it later. If you don't you might be sorry.
Don't judge your valentine if he or she cannot be as mushy gushy as you would like. Mushy gushy takes time.
Girls like mushy gushy, so do your best to do it tonight, its that kind of night.
Don't get upset or bothered by the Valentine's prices- expect it to be expensive!
Make sure to pay a compliment to your date even if she doesn't look good in your eyes; she is expecting it.
Don't bring a sleazy lingerie outfit for a girl you just started dating. If that was your plan, save it for another night, this could backfire!
Guys expect action on Valentine's Night. Yes, "that" kind of action! You don't have to be sleazy about it, but a little nooky is appropriate.
Posted by Missmatchblog at 6:57 PM
SHOPPING FOR . . . Valentine's Day cards
by Samantha Daniels
February 12, 2006
The expert: Samantha Daniels, celebrity matchmaker who inspired the TV series "Miss Match," founder of Samantha's Table Matchmaking, author of "Matchbook: The Diary of a Modern-Day Matchmaker."
The product: Valentine's Day cards
What I want: More than just friends? Don't pick a card that says "to a great friend." Likewise, if you're not lovers your card shouldn't say "to my honey."
I must have: In a newer relationship go the humor route (something universally funny, not just satisfying your personal sense of humor) and not so sappy. A card that has room to write something personal; people appreciate more what you write on your own than what's prewritten.
What I hate: Having to read each and every card; stores should offer more subcategories.
Savvy shopper: Don't wait 'til Feb. 14; cards are always picked over and you can never find what you want. Go to an actual card store, not a small store that sells lingerie and carries four cards. Oh, a piece of advice regarding the gift: It's OK to get a gift that's practical, but make sure you add a sentimental touch: One year my best friend was given a hair dryer, no card. The guy gave it because he wanted to hint that she should spend more time at his place and he didn't already own one. All my friend saw was a piece of electronic gear. They broke up over it. Moral of the story: Be sweet and verbal on Valentine's Day.
My pick: Shoebox Greetings start at $1.99 and have a good variety, and they're written in a "more real" way, not as corny or absurd.
Next best thing: Ran out of time or can't get to a store? E-cards are terrific, creative and free; try Bluemountain.com.
Posted by Missmatchblog at 6:52 PM
Friday, February 10, 2006
So, I went to a bunch of fashion shows this week and I saw this one guy around a lot- clearly straight, clearly not in the business and clearly scoping out the chicks. By the third time I saw him, I was curious about him, so I introduced myself. He told me that a PR friend of his, hooked him up so he could come to the shows because he wants to meet a woman to date. She told him that there would be a ton of pretty ones out and about during fashion week. I asked him how it was going (of course, after I told him that today was his lucky day because I was a matchmaker and that he should forget fashion shows, and realize I was the one who was holding the keys to the kingdom he is looking for!)
He said that, of course, there were tons of pretty girls, who might be available and who might want a guy but that they didn’t act that way at all. I looked him up and down- definitely a hot guy, definitely a successful looking guy- he had a white gold Rolex Daytona watch, a crisp white shirt, a Brioni cashmere blazer, a nice Camel overcoat, and supple leather gloves- he looked like a catch. These women are idiots, I thought immediately. He made a joke and said that it would be good if I could pass along some advice to the fashionistas so that in the future they wouldn’t miss a great guy like him standing right in front of them…
No problem!!! Clearly, the fashionistas are doing something wrong! Clearly they are giving off the wrong vibe! And it’s ironic because all I hear all the time, from all the fashion girls how difficult it is to meet a good guy. They constantly complain that they get to go to the coolest parties (their opinion) but all the men in attendance are gay or married so they wind up beautiful and alone because they can’t meet anyone. They say they see the same people all the time, and they say that their friends have already set them up with everyone they know. Then they beg me to set them up with someone great and straight!
The funny thing is these girls say they are dying to meet someone but then a guy like my client (yes, he signed up yesterday) comes around, a good looking guy (he really does look like Robert Downey Jr) , a successful guy, (he does make 7 figures) and an honest to goodness heterosexual guy and they ignore him or just don’t see him. So, here’s some advice for the fashionistas who claim that they would love to meet a great guy but never do so, for the girls who will be spending Valentine’s Day with another fashionista admiring their wardrobes and their photos on Wireimage instead of dining with an eligible guy at Gilt or Country…
1. Keep in mind that even at an event where most of the men are gay or unavailable there might always be that one guy who isn’t- and it only takes one.
2. Keep in mind that pretty girls are desired by men but are also intimidating to men; even to the most confident of men. Don’t stand in packs- just stand with one friend or alone so he will be able to approach if he wants to.
3. If a guy seems like he wants to approach, use body language, even just a smile to let him know that its okay to do so
4. Keep in mind that just because you are pretty doesn’t mean that guys are going to like you, you need to be welcoming and pretty.
5. Always be aware of your surroundings, because you never know who might be sitting next to you who might be a contender….
6. Do an honest self assessment and make an honest determination if the fashionista you is scaring away or turning off the men? Do you look too expensive and that makes a guy, any guy think you will be too high maintenance to handle?
7. Do you look untouchable because you are so decked out that it looks like if they lay a finger ron you, you will freak, break or get mussed? This is not good for dating.
8. Keep in mind that there is a time to be a fashion plate (the shows are a good time for that) and a time to be an attractive and also approachable woman (when you are specifically going out to meet men), make sure you dress accordingly for each occasion.
9. No more excuses about how you have to dress a certain way for your image; your image is fine. If meeting a man or getting married is a priority to you right now, you might have to tone down the designer duds in pursuit of love.
Posted by Missmatchblog at 2:27 PM