Friday, June 26, 2009

Here's what I know... your beau needs to pass the "deserted island test" if she is going to go the distance.

Have you ever wondered if you are dating someone who can grab and keep your interest such that you won't stray or leave?

Here's what I know...

(1) If a person can't keep your mental interest in the beginning when you first start dating, how will you stay interested in 1 yr, 5 yr 10yrs, or a lifetime?

(2) If you are a hot blooded person, face the facts, you need to have a relationship that has highs and lows, and runs hot and very hot; a vanilla, ordinary relationship is only going to make you want to cheat or leave.

(3) It is much easier to be with someone who just "gets it" and "gets you" than to be with someone who might be a "head-turner" for a moment, but with whom you just can't have an intense relationship.

(4) If you find someone who you personally think is hot,who actually gets you and grabs and holds your mental interest, this one is a keeper because this is very rare.

(5) Many times the very thing that draws you to a person initially like how "hot" she is or how much money he makes, will not sustain a relationship in the long haul.

(6) You should really think about whether you would want to be with this person on a deserted island because there will be many times during the course of your relationship that it will really be just the two of you. Will this person hold your interest? Keep you laughing? Will the time pass quickly, interestingly?

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Here's what I know... Actions speak louder than words

Have you ever wondered if someone who gushes "sweet nothings" to you is genuine or just full of "you know what?"

Here's what I know....

(1) Actions speak louder than words. You know that, I know that, trust it.

(2) Talk is cheap and easy and takes no effort. Actions takes effort, actions means something.

(3) You need to pay attention to whether or not those words he is saying to you are unique to you or whether he gushes them to everyone. Does he say "Hi Beautiful!" to everyone he talks to on the phone or is that just to you?

(4) You need to think whether or not his expression of strong emotions for you came before or after he knew you well enough to gush.

(5) You need to think about whether his lines are just "hooking you" and making you stick around rather than making you feel good about the situation at hand.

(6) You need to think about whether you are making excuses for his lack of actions because he gushes sweet nothings at you. Yes, it feels good to hear you are "sexy" 10 times a day but when was the last time he actually asked you out on a proper date?

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Here's what I know... Sometimes it good to have no plans and see what can happen.

Have you ever noticed that the most fun you have is when you don't have any plans and things just happen?

Here's what I know...

(1) People in big cities are super busy so sometimes having plans on the fly works better.

(2) In today's day and age, playing "hard to get" is not necessarily a good thing if it stops you from doing something you might enjoy.

(3) Sometimes, being open to possibilities, can bring you a world of possibilities that you were not expecting.

(4) Sometimes when you are locked into too many plans, you will miss the forest between the trees.

(5) Sometimes it is better to be open for something new, rather than just planning the same old thing again and again.

(6) If you find yourself with a no plan night, take a chance and go somewhere you would never go and see what might unfold.