Samantha's Dating Tips-Meeting Your Boyfriend's Ex

Have you ever wondered how it will be, if and when, you meet your boyfriend's ex? Have you wondered the right things to say, the right things to do and how to act?
I am a Professional Matchmaker and here's what I know...
1. You can be nice. Keep in mind that you have him right now, she doesn't, so there is no reason to be snippy.

2. Sizing her up will get you nowhere. Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason for chemistry. If you are scratching your head in disbelief that he was into her and now he's into you, don't bother, you will never be able to figure it out.

3. Don't do the old contrast and compare because chances are, this will just make you feel insecure. Just feel confident about who you are and the connection that the two of you are having in the present.

4. If you feel a little jealousy about his connection to her or the fact that another woman knows him as well as you do, that's okay. Feeling jealous and/or insecure is natural, but don't let it send you into a funk and just ride out the evening; it will end soon enough.

5.Be prepared for some reminiscing

Samantha's Dating Ponder-Can You Live With Your Ex?

Now that our guilty pleasure of the summer-The Bachelorette-is over, there is a new show just like it. Season 2 of Bachelor Pad started earlier this week and after just one episode, it sure looks like it is going to be a juicy season. For starters, Vienna and Jake reunite after a not so amicable yet very public break up after she was the winner of season 14 of The Bachelor. Except this time, Vienna is very much involved with Kasey Kahl, a contestant on season 5 of The Bachelorette. With so many hotties under one roof, there is bound to be some juicy scandals and budding romances. However, what will happen with Jake and Vienna? Can you live under the same roof as an ex? If so, for how long? Living with someone you once used to love can only stir up old emotions and create new turmoils and jealous feelings. So, it will definitely be interesting to see how things pan out with these lovers turned enemies living in the same house. What do you think? Have you ever had to live with an ex? How did it turn out?

Here's what I know...You won't get over your ex until you find someone new

Did you ever notice that you are never get over the last guy, until you find the next guy?

Here's what I know...

(1) As much as you think you can stay in touch with the Ex while you are looking for the "next" you can't.

(2) As much as you think you need your ex's friendship to survive, you don't. You need to find a new friend or you will never find a new guy.

(3) As much as you think you can date your ex casually and date other guys at the same time, you can't. You won't be giving those other guys a fair chance, you just won't be.

(4) As much as you think you will be better off mentally if you keep having sex with your ex while you are starting to date, you won't be. And no, this won't keep you from being sleazy or from sleeping with a new guy too quickly. You can rationalize whatever you want, but sex with the ex, is only that, sex with the ex.

(5) Yes, you will get over the ex eventually but first you need to get rid of him so you can meet someone else. Then you can take him back, but as a friend, on your own terms.