Here's what I know... Dating and Good New Year's Resolutions

Have you ever wondered what other single people are resolving to do or not do in the world of dating as they go into a new year?

Here's what I know...

1. A lot of people resolve to get married, to make this the year that they actually walk down the aisle in holy matrimony at the Plaza Hotel, go on a honeymoon to Fiji and move into their dream apartment on Park Avenue. If you are making this type of resolution, you might consider dialing it back a bit and resolve something with less pressure, and something that is more attainable. I would recommend that you resolve getting into a loving monogamous relationship that could lead to marriage as opposed to marriage itself. A lot of times if your resolutions are too lofty, they will overwhelm you and ultimately backfire.

Matchmaker in the know: Bad breath foods that kill a date

Have you ever wondered what foods and things are the biggest bad breath offenders??

Here’ s what I know…

-Red wine is the biggest offender. A lot of people prefer red wine, a lot of people say that red wine is good for your health and a lot of people think red wine is more sophisticated. However, red wine makes your breath smell bad and its stains a lot of people’s teeth. Translation- you breathe smells bad AND you are talking to someone you like with purple teeth. Choose vodka instead. Its odorless

-Not eating gives you bad breath. If you didn’t eat all day, then you have that I am hungry breath and that is very hard to get rid of. Make sure you pop several mints when you leave you office and grab something like a banana that should take the smell away.

-Peanuts give you bad breath and the smell lingers on you. I know its tempting to eat those peanuts on the table at the bar but choose the cashews or the pistachios instead.

-Olives give you bad breath. Don’t eat a bowl of them at the bar and on a date, don’t ask for extras in your martini so you can chow down on them, they are bad for your breath.

-Garlic- everyone knows garlic is a breath killer but these days a lot of people don’t care because they love these Pasta Puttanesca. Keep in mind that not only does garlic kill your breath but a lot of people sweat garlic out of their pours so you wind up with body odor as well as bad breath! If you want a good night kiss, save you pasta craving for football night with the guys!

Here's what I know... Men like women who act like women.

Have you ever wondered what type of women, men really like??

Here's what I know...

1. Men like women who act like women. This does not mean that you need to act like a frail woman or a Stepford wife, but it means that you should act in such a way so that he feel like he is the man and you are the woman.

2. Men like women who let a man help them. Men need to feel needed whether it's in a small way- changing a light bulb or answering a question for you or whether it's in a larger way- coming to your rescue in a bad situation or calming you down when you are freaking out. If you make him feel like you don't need him at all, he will leave you.

3. Men like women who act flirty. Flirting is the most important thing about male/female interaction- it's the best part of the "game." If you don't know how to flirt, it's important that you learn.

4. Men like women who giggle. This does not mean that you need to act like a "ditz," but keep in mind that the definition of a giggle is "a flirty laugh" and giggling tells the guy two things--that you think he's funny and that you like him because you are flirting with him through your laugh.

5. Men like women who dress like a woman. Men like women in dresses- they just do. You can make any excuse you want about thinking you look better in pants, but a guy will always appreciate and admire a woman in a dress.

6. Men like women who allow a man act like a man, women who let him watch football with the guys, have a guys night out once in awhile, even belch inappropriately from time to time. If you emasculate your guy, he will either turn into a guy who you won't respect or he will leave you because he will wind up not respecting himself.

Here's what I know... Women notice the little things you do or don't do.

Did you ever wonder what are the things upon which women judge you?

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1. She notices if you suggest she come to a place right near you for the date, a place that is nowhere near her and then you don't offer to go pick her up. And on top of that, you make no apology for this lack of consideration.

2. She notices if you tip under 20 percent because the norm is 20 percent.

3. She notices if you don't tip on liquor because everyone tips on liquor.

4. She notices if you get out of the taxi first, don't offer to escort her home and then don't offer to pay to get her home.

5. She notices if you talk about yourself all night long and never even remember to ask her one question about her.

6. She notices if you check out every girl who walks in the door, even the ugly ones; she's not blind you know!

Here's what I know... Staying w someone you know isn't for you can make a relationship very mediocre.

Have you ever wondered why you stay in something you know isn't for you?

Here's what I know...

(1) Often times its easy to stay w someone who your used to but is that really making you happy.

(2) Often times its easy to stay with someone where the sex is decent but don't you want the sex to be excellent?

(3) Often times its easy to stay with someone who doesn't question your social moves, but wouldn't you like her more if she did?

(4) Often times its easy to stay with someone who doesn't give you a hard time about your level of interest in her but wouldn't you respect her more if she did?

(5) Often times its easy to stay in a relationship with someone who isn't smart enough to really know what is going on in your business but wouldn't you be more impressed w her if she the time to find out?

(6) Often times it easy to stay in a relationship where the girl just blends in at the table but wouldn't you have a better time if she was fascinating and funny?

Here’s what I know…Vacationing without your beau will tell you a lot.

Have you ever wondered if "absence makes the heart grow fonder" or "out of sight, out of mind" is the best adage to describe your feelings for your significant other?

Here’s what I know…

1. When you are traveling, if you keep thinking that you wish your beau could share thing after thing with you, you are into your beau.

2. However, when you are traveling, if you find yourself relieved to have the time apart and away from your beau, this should tell you something.

3. And, if you find that you have and are excited to have a wandering eye, this should tell you something.

4. And, if your phone calls and your emails to your beau are out of obligation not desire, this should tell you something.

5. And, if you find yourself wanting to stay away longer just to be away from the responsibilities of your relationship, this should tell you something.

6. And, if you find yourself having more fun with your flirtatious vacation fling than you have with your beau at home, this should tell you something.

Here’s what I know… If you get caught in an awkward dating snafu, tell the truth

Have you ever been caught with your “hand in the cookie jar” in dating and you just don’t know how to handle it?

Here’s what I know…

1. The truth is usually the least messy way to go.

2. Be apologetic not defensive

3. Pay compliments, lots of them

4. Explain yourself right away; the longer you hedge, the more her imagination can run wild.

5. Explain why you did what you did, calmer and simply.

6. Send flowers or chocolates afterwards, even if she accepted your apology. Remember you were in the dog house bigtime.