Thursday, December 4, 2008

When he doesn't like you back...

Unfortunately in dating, the old expression, "it takes two to tango" is very true. The bottom line is that it doesn't matter how much you like him, how happy he seems when he's with you, how great you think you would be for him, or how great looking your kids would be, if he isn't into you, it doesn't matter how into him you are, the game is just over!

I know, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense. Why would he, your perfect guy, be dating her, a girl who is such a moron that she doesn't even know whether Madison Avenue is on the east side or the west side, instead of dating you? Why would he choose to be with a girl who is so anorexic that she just pushes the food around on her plate when you know that he loves to share food when he is out at a great restaurant? And why would he choose to be with someone who has stock in Ritalin and has drama as her middle name rather than you who is virtually drug free?

He says he is looking for his wife and the mother of his children so why is he dating a child and a basket-case instead? Why did he bother getting a double ivy degree if he is just going to pass down high school equivalency genes to his kids? And why did he spend so much time hobnobbing with the elite, if he was just going to end up marrying the penniless foreigner who came to the US to find her gold?

I know, I know, what the hell is this all about???

It's shocking, disappointing and crazy all at once. But we can't help who we love and we can't make people love us.

So... the best thing you can do is accept reality- he isn't into you. Men are predators, hunters and they go after what and who they want. Even the most spineless and effeminate ones, they still figure out a way to get what they want. If he isn't going after you, if he isn't scheduling plans with you, he isn't into you. Period. Don't buy his excuses anymore. Don't be his pen pal. Don't settle for late night drunken phone calls or one word answers to your texts. Accept facts.

And do yourself a favor... go find the guy who actually digs you. Remember back to when you were into a guy who actually was into you as well. Remember that??? It might have been awhile ago, but I know you have been there before. Remember those times when you couldn't believe how strongly he came on, the times you giggled a lot because he was so "after you", the times he seemed like he was in heat? That was a guy who really liked you.
It time to pay attention to him or to go find him; he's out there and he's sick of the drama, the gold diggers and the nursery school conversation.

He's really out there and will be delighted to meet you...


  1. Good post, great advice for the ladies! Unfortunately, its true for both men and women. Men tend to chase girls who seem uninterested in them, and women are into those guys who are chasing those other uninterested girls. It's a vicious cycle. And girls don't tend to be interested in guys who are interested in them. So this advice is easier said than done. I've been there. I guess when both the man and woman stop chasing after people who are interesting to them, they settle for each other. I'm not one to settle, or go with the flow, thus I'm still single :) And I'm not into the thrill of the chase or girls who are uninterested in me. I'm more into girls who are interested in me.

  2. Wow what you just said is sooo true buddy, In my personal experience I used to be like that which is chasing the girls not interested in me and ignoring the one who are into me. And I must say that it is natural cause its a human nature to go after something we cannot have.
    Therefor women will play hard to get, wear push up bras etc to lure the men , and men will try to be pick up artist and learn and do anything they can to score as much as they can and yea its true its a vicious circle.

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