Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Here's what I know... Dating a complex person is complex

Are you always attracted and intrigued by multi-dimensional, complex people and does this scare you and excite you at the same time?

Here's what I know...

(1) It can be challenging to date a complex person but if you are a person who gets bored easily, is entrepreneurial or is an overachiever, you need to be with a person of this nature.

(2) Life is long, so people need to be with someone who can be their partner, who understands their need to private time and space, who challenges them, makes them think, bolsters their ego, makes them laugh and helps them to not take things so seriously. If you don't have those ingredients in a relationship, it will not last.

(3) Complex people have lots of layers- it might take you awhile to penetrate all of their layers but when you do, it is usually worth it. Complex people are usually like that chocolate candy with the cherry on the inside; you need to take a real bite to get to all that sweetness but once you have found it, boyyyyy does it taste good!

(4) Complex people tend to have their guard up in the beginning until they feel completely secure in a relationship, but once they put it down, it's usually full speed ahead in a very direct and easy way.

(5) Complex people are highly adaptable because they are thinkers. If you express to them how you feel, what you think or why something bothers you, they will usually take time to process this and move forward accordingly.

(6) Complex people are not always what they appear to be. They are very selective about letting people into their inner circle, and that inner circle is the best place for you to get to know the real them. Getting into that inner circle can take little longer than with other people, but almost always, it is worth the wait.


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  2. What if you're one of the complex people (and a girl)? How do you make yourself more approachable and open to guys? Lately, I've been talking a lot about how I haven't had a crush in FOREVER (easily more than a year), and that's mainly because usually after I get to know a guy who I am physically attracted to, once I've gotten to talking to him, I lose interest because his conversation doesn't interest me (read: he's boring).

    1. Yep, I utterly understand you -__-

  3. It might take you awhile to penetrate all of their layers but when you do, it is usually worth it.

  4. my ex let me in, and let me out. i've changed a whole lot for him he said he cares about me, but doesnt love me and just the other day we made out and now he takes it back. we broke up april 2 2011 and we made out 2days after. he claimed he was sad and lonely and um u know the big H. i dont know how to get him back. i was learning how to cope with his complexity but he just doesnt want to try any more but i know it can work i said we might get back but not now how should i take this as? i need him back. how do i get a complex man like him back.

  5. My boyfriend just told me he is complex with minor issues,Im not quit sure what that mean's,What is he saying to me?

  6. Loved the way you described me. In a digital fast forward world no one has time for going out with this type. :-)

  7. OMG this is me to the t and i crossed and dotted.